Narcissists often display lack of empathy due to extreme sense of insecurity and their ruthless characteristics. They are often disconnected from their emotions which reflects in coping with relations at emotional and mental level.

As part of my research, I caught up with one of the volunteer Ilya to understand her perspective and experiences with Joy Kuo. After a warm cup of tea, Ilya says…

“There has been uncanny correlation of missing Empathy in Joy Kuo, she was always disconnected with fellow participants.

Throughout the time I have known Joy Kuo, she has shown no empathy. One example would be the way she treated one of the volunteers in Australia named Nick, who was a carpenter and a builder. After she moved to the Central Coast, she had a plan to set up her own Center like how she had seen how one of the volunteers in Sydney used to have her own healing Center.

Of course, she made it seem like it was selfless service towards a spiritual mission of the organization in which she was involved whereas she set up her own business and used stolen data for her own monetary gain.

Joy manipulated Nick into doing renovations in her new place for free in exchange for food and lodging. Likewise she never shied away from exploiting other resources, but when Nick needed some medical attention, she painted him in a bad light to others and tried to get rid of him immediately.

She showed no care, concern or empathy whatsoever for the person she had exploited to renovate her house. Very typical of the love bombing, devalue and discard cycle of covert narcissists”

Looking towards the window and trying to recollect, Ilya shares in a reflective tone…

“When Joy became the representative for our Spiritual movement in Australia, people started leaving.

Volunteers who had been happily offering their time and energy before, started leaving after Joy came into the scene and they had to interface with her.

Her cold, domineering style of operating without any care or compassion or understanding of another person’s situation drove them away”

I asked Ilya, 5 years is a long time to be associated with someone and if she saw any changes through their advanced training. With a smile Ilya says…

Joy had no qualms about trying to get others out of the Facilitator in Training Programme, telling blatant lies if she had to. Joy tried to get most of the FiT out in Sydney by using every opportunity to twist situations and paint others in a bad light, belittle their efforts, as she was jealous of them or they were in the way of her plans to take over the spiritual movement.

Throughout the years Joy project to rest of the FiT who were based out of Sydney that, she was doing everything for the spiritual organization & movement, whereas the truth was very very different.

Joy even tried to get me out of the FiT Programme. Towards end of 2015 Joy sent an email to Li Ping (who was our mentor’s intimate assistant at that time) and claimed that I & another FiT didn’t attend one of the workshop hence we were not eligible for the FiT programme. That was just childish and petty.

Our mentor immediately objected to her sly tactic. Of course, Joy never mentioned such complaints at my face and acted all nice whenever I met her.

From Ilyas’ statements it appeared Joy could never succeed in her attempts so how could she have got any success in sabotaging the spiritual mission of others. However her next sentences were shocking:

Look, Joy really manipulated and groomed one of the FiT in Sydney who is a true empath.

Exploiting his dedication towards the spiritual organization and its founders by pretending her dedication.

Joy literally slave drove the poor chap, made him do all the menial work and used him as a chauffeur. The boy lives in Sydney and his job involves doing shift work, but she made him drive to her place in the Central Coast 2-3 times a week, purposely kept him up at odd hours, completely disregarding his need for sleep or his own life.

There is so much more that can be said about how Joy Kuo used and abused this boy mentally, emotionally and financially but this example again shows how Joy simply has no regards or empathy for another person.

Ilya retrospectively sums up…

After realization struck and Joy’s behavior was out in the open, I once asked Joy, how she could exploit other people in such a way?

She was not able to give me a proper answer… and still made it all about her.